First dates should be fun, but they’re also an opportunity to weed out people who don’t deserve a second date. Here are 5 red flags on a first date that should send you running:
“I’m not really the boyfriend/girlfriend/relationship type.”
You will not change his/her mind. If you’re looking for a boyfriend/girlfriend/relationship, he’s/she’s not the one. Yellow flag: ‘I’ve never had a serious girlfriend/boyfriend.’ Maybe he’s/she’s just waiting for the right woman/men to come along — or maybe he’s/she’s not into commitment.
They drink too much
A glass or two might take the edge off, but getting drunk on a first date might indicate a more serious problem.
They hate too much
They spend the first date elaborating on how much they hate their father or mother or their job or just spreading negative energy around this is a huge red flag.
They talk about themselves ? and only themselves.
Is your date spending most time talking only about themselves? Watch out, that may be a sign that they’re self-absorbed or even narcissistic. If they ask you about you, rather than telling you about them, that’s a good sign. Are they attentive when you are speaking? Do they interrupt you? Do you feel heard and like what you say matters to them? Do they follow the conversation or change the subject? It’s important to take all of this into consideration.
They treat the waitstaff rudely.
“Is your date kind and patient with the other people you interact with? Do you get a sense of compassion, patience and empathy when you encounter a senior citizen or someone with a disability? Are they easygoing or do they have a short fuse when the waiter makes a mistake? What you see today may be an indicator of how they’ll be tomorrow or a year or a decade from now. You want someone who is fundamentally kind, compassionate and patient” Read more here.