No matter where your loneliness originated, it doesn’t have to take over or control your life.
To overcome loneliness around and to avoid suffering more, here are 5 strategies for you:
Believe me, if you will take excellent care of yourself and start treating yourself well are your self-esteem will increase, especially during difficult times. Self-care is essential and healthy; not selfish. Take a walk or hike, take a relaxing bath with bubbles or go to a good hairdresser. Whatever activity you enjoy the most and whatever will be beneficial for your overall well being.
Focus on our own expectations and desires
If enough people ask, “What is wrong with you?” because you aren’t married, don’t take it personally no matter how hard it sounds. Many of us internalize the external pressures and expectations around us — we adopt or over-identify with the issues of other people and society. We aim to please or meet the expectations of others rather than focus on our own expectations and desires. Start thinking about your own expectation and desires rather than what other people think about you.
Reach out and help someone else.
I know you might feel lonley and you’re trying to meet your own needs for support and belonging, you might consider shifting some of your energy toward others. Perhaps you can be there for someone else, rather than focusing on how people are not there for you. Think about the other people in your life. Maybe they need some attenion as well? Could you take a little time just to let them know that they matter to you and that you are thinking about them? After all, you’re gotten this painful reminder of what it feels like to be lonely.
Realize that loneliness is a feeling, not a fact
When you are feeling lonely, it is because something has brought on a memory of that feeling, not because you are isolated and alone. Loneliness is only a feeling, not a fact. It’s all because of our brains which are designed to pay attention to pain and danger, so it includes loneliness and that’s why this feeling gets our attention. Theories about why you are feeling lonely can become confused with facts. Just realize that you are having this feeling and accept it without overreacting.
Some research has suggested that meditation may ease feelings associated with loneliness and depression. Of course, there are so much more benefits of meditating. Meditation is also a great way to get more in touch with your feelings of loneliness and start to understand where they come from. Learning to meditate it’s not a simple process and takes time and practice. You can always find a meditation class in your area or buy CDs that will help you learn how to meditate.