There is a literal pain that comes with the loss of a relationship: a sharp pain in the area of your heart. If you are in this dark and confusing place here are some tips to help you get through it:
Accept that breakups are hard
Breakups are hard to get over simply because of that emotional dependency. People have grown close to someone and find it difficult to let that go. Once your relationship is broken, it feels like a part of you is missing- simply because someone that used to be part of your everyday life is now gone. Don’t be to harsh on yourself, breakups are really hard.
Give yourself time
You are going through something big, and it’s normal to not be okay for a while. Feel your pain and embrace your sadness. The paradox of grief is that the more bravely we allow it, and permit ourselves to not be okay for a while, the quicker we heal. This is a delicate time and giving yourself time and space to heal from this emotional injury, just like you would a physical injury, will help strengthen you so that when the time is right you can start moving forward again.
Don’t ask people who know your ex for information
When it is healthy to admit to yourself and your friends that you are not yet over your ex, absolutely nothing positive comes from asking about his or her life today. If you have friends who feeds you updates about your ex without asking, tell that you need them to stop in order for you to move on.
Do something he/she hated
Did he/she ban Indian restaurants from your Saturday nights? Order some vindaloo, extra spicy. Did he/she think all bungee jumpers have a death wish? Doing something that’s so “not him/her” is an easy way to bring you back to yourself.
Go out with friends, to a movie, ice skating, go bowling,or even go on a date. Do whatever helps make you happy. Anything to distract yourself and take your mind off of your ex.