When a relationship comes to an end, the process of healing and moving on hopefully begins. Now it’s time to move on and be ready when a new partner enters your life. Here are 5 practices that will help you leave the past behind:
Forgive your ex
Holding a sorrow ties you to the past, keeping you psychologically related to the person and connected to experiences you are trying to put behind you. Let it go – and set yourself free. Instead of dwelling on your pain, you should imagine yourself in a happier place. You should try to replace every bad thought with a positive one.
Keep a realistic perspective of the person
Every relationship has good and bad times, and everyone has strengths and weaknesses. Noticing both assures you that your old love was not, in fact, perfect.
Deal with your biggest problem first
Buddhist meditation teacher Norman Fischer suggests that no matter what’s happened, the major problem after the breakup we face is our own anger. Deal with yourself—exercise, take a long walk, meditate, say less and give it more time, or whatever it takes—before you deal with anyone else.
Most people sink into depression when a relationship ends. It takes about a month to form new neuropathways in one’s brain, so the best thing to do is to get busy and be active. There are plenty things you can do to get busy, exercise is always a great bet. Clearing out clutter is also a great way to feel better fast. Another great thing to do is get away. Plan a weekend trip with friends to a place that will feel great, and go.
Start working on your goals
Your goals can be anything, big or small, and you can have as many as you want. Write them down on a paper and plan how to achieve them. When you put your energy into achieving these and improving yourself, you are not only focusing your energy away from your ex, you’re giving yourself the motivation to turn that energy into something positive.