You most likely know which behaviors turn you off the most in another person but have you ever think about which behaviors of yours could annoy another person? We are all different and we all get triggered by different behaviors. Here’s a list of the most common bad dating behaviors that bother men and women.
Talking about previous dates or exes
Keep previous romantic experiences off the table for the first few dates, at least. But let’s be honest, it’s difficult to go on a first date without mentioning your ex-partner especially if you’re divorced. If someone asks you about ex-partners try to give a short answer, it’s normal to discuss this but this doesn’t mean either you or your date need to dwell on it. Focus on your date and invest your mental energy to know your date better.
Not letting your date choose what to do or where to go
It never hurts to ask directly how your date likes to spend time during the date and it’s also polite to let that person help you plan the outing. Ask if they have specific activities or restaurants in mind for that particular date. Or maybe your date doesn’t like planning at all. There is absolutely nothing wrong with saying this: “Do you prefer the other person to plan the date, or do you prefer to do the planning? Or do you like to make those decisions together?” No matter the specifics, either ask about their approach to planning dates or simply suggest that you plan the date together.
Staying Super Silent
Unfortunately, some people don’t feel the need to actually talk on a first date. It’s not a good strategy. Doesn’t a date pretty much require both people to chat and be interested rather stare blankly and shrug and nod when appropriate? It’s okay to be an introvert – we’re all different and everyone has their own personality. But it’s not great to show up on the first date without really trying or putting in an effort. Next time you’re on a first date where you’re the only person talking and showing off who you are, feel free to never see that person again. It’s only fair to be chatty and try to make the most of the evening, no matter how shy or quiet you are.
Asking Creepy Questions
You get asked a lot of really strange and borderline super creepy questions on the majority of your first dates. And you don’t feel good answering them, right? First, you think it’s a joke and that your date is trying to be funny… but he/she is probably not. It’s a first date, not a police Q&A. When you have been asked how tall you are or where you live (as in your exact street address, exact house etc) you don’t need to answer all these questions. IIf this happens again, you might just walk out entirely.