Here’s how to fix a broken relationship whenever you truly feel like a break up is inevitable.
Be attentive to what your partner is saying
Any time one partner is speaking the other partner should be listening to them. Listening is more than hearing. It’s head nodding, body language, paying attention, asking questions, and showing you are engaged in the conversation. Being a good listener can change an average relationship into an amazing one. Even if there’s disagreement, it’s clear that what the other has to say is still very important. The partners might have a history of over-talking, interruption, minimizing, or dismissing, but will stop those behaviors when the other half ask them to and redirect their attention to what the partner is saying.
Show concern and compassion
Compassion is at the very heart of meaningful relationships and good communication. We often say, treat others the way you want to be treated. This is great advice, but the much better advice is to treat others the way they’d want to be treated. In other words, your concept of what is an act of love might not be quite the same as your partner’s. You might think doing his laundry would make your partner feel loved when actually he would prefer if you just sat and talked to him about his day. You might think your partner would want a dozen roses without occasion when she would rather just hear you say how you sincerely feel toward her on an ordinary afternoon.
Be accountable for your actions and don’t blame one another
Be responsible for your actions and reactions. This applies to the blamee and the blamer. Blaming reduces intimacy. It’s naturally difficult to get close to a person or to keep a close relationship when they have their arm outstretched with an accusing finger. Take responsibility for your feelings, words, and thoughts. Stop blaming – focus on how to make improvements. Blaming is practically never related to making improvements in a relationship.
Feel and express unconditional love
Make space in your life to intentionally reconnect with the loving feelings you have for your partner, even if current interactions have made you really feel angry or distant. In those moments you should remember about the good qualities of your partner that originally attracted you to him/her. Maybe looking at old photos or visualizing special times in your relationship might help. Love is described as a concern for another’s wellbeing and a warm feeling you have towards another. Don’t focus on what your partner does, but instead reach out and express unconditional support, caring, forgiveness and understanding.
See the world through your partner’s eyes
Too often, couples get stuck in their own emotions and ignore other half feelings. This is the easiest way arguing for days and days. Instead, you should stop for a moment and see the world through your partner’s eyes. Practicing empathy and really trying to understand how your partner thinks and feels is one of the best ways to boost your relationship health and the ability of the two of you to communicate.